Issue 15.15
A few months ago I had a pain in my side when I woke up, and my wife said I should go to the doctor, but I went to work instead. By evening my pain was more pronounced, my wife said I should go into the Instacare, but I thought not. By late that evening, after the Instacare closed, I was in the fetal position, sweating profusely, and taking breaks from writhing on the floor in pain to throw up. At this point my wife insisted we go into the hospital, and I was finally inclined to agree – though I made one more attempt to avoid it, outside the Emergency Room. KIDNEY STONES: Ya Gotta Love ‘em!
Why is it that we resist so hard doing what we need to do?
I am often asked by people what they can do to convince their mother, father, husband, wife, or sibling to get the help they need. I wish I could say that I have the answer that works every time, but I don’t! However, I have learned a few things that may be obvious to some, but may be useful to others – you can see what a slow learner I am from the story above!
Things I have learned:
1. Most people would rather stay at home than go into a facility; they love their home, things, and neighborhood.
2. People don’t want to make decisions that can’t be changed later.
3. People want to maintain their independence.
4. People want to maintain their privacy.
5. People are concerned about having or spending the money to get the help they need.
So, given these “REVELATIONS” here are some ideas that may help you convince your loved one to get the help they need:
1. It is usually much easier to convince someone to get in-home help than to convince them to sell their home and a lot of their things, give up their independence, and move into a facility.
2. With some in-home care agencies you can cancel service with 1-day notice, so you’re not “stuck”.
3. At home you are King/Queen of your castle; at someone else’s home you are a guest or serf.
4. Licensed Personal Care Agencies are bound by HIPPA privacy rules just like your doctor.
5. It is a fact that on the average in-home care is about 1/3 or less the cost of care in a facility.
For a FREE Report on The Cost of In-Home Care vs. Facility Care, call or email:
435-216-9404 or Roland@KindHeartsSeniorCare.com